It is a very rare occasion when I hear from a betrayed spouse that their unfaithful partner has told them the truth about the extent of their infidelity right from the start.  Instead it is way more likely that the truth has been trickled out over a period of time – trickle truth.  This is an extremely painful way to come clean about the affair for the betrayed spouse. And it gets worse when lies are told to cover up other lies or minimise the truth.  Layer upon layer of deception that has to be unravelled.