One of the things about an affair though is that it refuses to be ignored.  If you ignore a few scratches or bruises they will cause some discomfort but eventually go away.  Ignoring an affair is the equivalent of ignoring a rumbling appendix - it will eventually burst and threaten your life.  I had to learn how to go through the pain.  The antidote to pain is somewhere inside the pain.  And the worst part is the more you avoid the longer it takes to heal.

What you can and can’t do to speed it up – and what are the signs that it is nearly over…

From the minute you find out that you have been betrayed by your partner – whether you find out by accident or your partner tells you – you are on a journey with the goal to move from broken to whole.  No one gets through the revelation of infidelity unscathed.  But where you go from there is entirely up to you.